I have emails, texts from him saying he has cheated and is sorry, print out of phone records w him and the girl communicating. How can I go in affect with a divorce? Who do I need to speak to? Is this enough evidence? I also found out that she is also living in my apartment in Tennessee while I am in Miami. If i pursue w a divorce is it worth taking it up w the Army? please help!!


It’s called JAG, consult Legal and take that punitive article with you.
I called my friend commonsense, he said take all that stuff to a lawyer. You do know that if you were with him like a GOOD wife should, he may not have been tempted to run around.
If he’s an officer he could be court martialed for poor conduct, especially if the mistress was also military.
Wow what a shock, usually it’s the other way around. Just divorce his *** in court and move on.
sorry to hear about it, and I think you have to go to a solicitor don’t you?
Why are you so eager to jump into a divorce? Do you have any children? Is this the first time? These are all relevant questions to ask before jumping head first. I have been married for 13years to the same woman. I got married at age 20. Unfortunately we both have had our indiscretions (one more than the other) however, we really do love each other and have been able to mend fences. Time does heal but both parties have to be willing to put forth the effort. Look at the situation from all sides. Yes he is responsible for his actions..no question. But also consider what contributions you may have made to this situation.
Your apartment? Under both your names or your name only? Who’s paying for the rent? Call the landlord and tell them that’s not you. And like the other poster said, if the mistress herself is in the military then she would get in trouble too. Heck yeah, I’m talking to the Army. Call a lawyer who specializes in military divorces and ask about this infidelity thing, most lawyers give an hour free worth of consultation. I have read that committing adultery while in the military can get someone in trouble, but I’m not sure, if it does then yeah I’m contacting the commander.
the Army has nothing to do with it.. this is strictly a civil matter between you , him and your divorce lawyers.
Umm yea he can get into A LOT of trouble – you need to find out who is above him (like his first Sargent) and let him know – if you have enough proof your husband will be dropped in rank(pay) and he could get into a lot more trouble than that. Make sure you two don’t want to fix things because once you do this you can’t undo it. But if he’s been cheating and you haven’t , and you two aren’t separated then f*ck his world up!!!! You go girl!
You can use that stuff against him during a divorce. You need a civilian lawyer for that, a military lawyer can do little more than give advice or referrals. As for getting him in trouble with the Army, it’s not going to happen. You need proof of adultery to get him in trouble, such as pictures or videotape. The most you can do with the stuff you have right now is present it to his commander and he can order your husband to cease contact with her and nothing more.